Talking about engagement rings, let alone engagement in general, is certainly not an easy subject to just toss into casual conversation. If you and your boyfriend are comfortable with talking about getting engaged, but you’re not sure how to approach showing him the ring you want, you’re in the right place. I don’t recommend being upfront and showing him pictures right away, but rather ease him into it. Eventually, you’ll be able to tag him in Instagram photos on the daily (not really), like I do. 😉
Approaching this in a subtle manner is the best way to go about it. For example, if you’re scrolling through social media and happen to see a friend from high school just got engaged, show your boyfriend. All you have to say is, “Oh, look who just got engaged! That’s a really pretty ring.” In this case, he’ll have an initial visual representation of what you like and may even ask if that’s a style you’d want for yourself. If no one recently got engaged, just show him an old family member’s photo–he’ll never know.
Go through a few magazines with several different ring designs and highlight the ones you like the most. Once you have done so, leave the magazines in obvious places that he would normally be around. If he’s really curious, he’ll go through it, but there’s always the chance that he’ll assume you accidentally left it out and ignore it. See if it works once or twice. If not, be slightly obvious by plopping down on the couch next to him with the magazine in hand.
*True story: My boyfriend randomly receives letters from Helzberg Diamonds every so often notifying him that he qualifies for a credit towards a piece of jewelry. Each time he opens it, I point out rings that I like most. I, honestly, did not subscribe him to it, but it gave me this idea.* Sign your boyfriend up for a jewelers e-mail list! If he checks his e-mail regularly, he’ll begin to notice the constant messages and might even approach YOU to ask what you like. If you happen to be passing a jewelry store while out and about, stop by their displays so you could ooh and ahh at your favorites.
Show a close, reliable friend (who is also close to him) a few pictures of what you like. He or she can reach out to him that way you won’t have to do it at all! Chances are he’ll be relieved that your friend offered the advice to begin with.
Here’s my go-to every time I think of anything wedding related–the Pinterest Board. By now, most men know Pinterest is a girl’s best friend, but second to the diamond, of course. While this method isn’t totally subtle, it isn’t straightforward, either. The next time you’re talking about getting engaged, mention your wedding or engagement ring Pinterest board. It’s as easy as saying, “If you ever need an idea of what to get me, you could always just look at my Pinterest account.”